Gabrielle Reece, Laird Hamilton's Wife, Says Being 'Submissive' Is A Sign Of Strength (VIDEO)

Volleyball star Gabrielle Reece and pro surfer Laird Hamilton have been married for 17 years, and Reece recently revealed the controversial secret to their successful relationship: creating an "old fashioned" dynamic.

In appearances on the "Today" show and "Rock Center With Brian Williams" Friday, Reece explained that she and Hamilton considered divorcing after four years of marriage. But their relationship improved when they learned how to complement each other by adopting more traditional gender roles.

?I think the idea of living with a partner is ?How can I make their life better?'" Reece told "Today's" Natalie Morales. ?So if I?m the woman and he?s the man, then yes, that?s the dynamic. I?m willing and I choose to serve my family and my husband because it creates a dynamic where he is then in fact acting more like a man and masculine and treating me the way I want to be treated."

Reece recently wrote a memoir called "My Foot Is Too Big For The Glass Slipper," in which she claims, ?to truly be feminine means being soft, receptive, and ?- look out, here it comes ?- submissive.?

But on the "Today" show, she clarified that she doesn't think being "submissive" is a sign of weakness.

?I think because women have the ability to set the tone, that the ultimate strength and showing real power, I believe, is creating that environment," she said. "I think it?s a sign of strength.??

She told Kate Snow of "Rock Center" that ultimately, communication and attraction to your partner are the keys to any successful marriage.

Watch more of Reece's "Today" show appearance in the video above.

Check out HuffPost bloggers' advice for keeping your marriage stress-free in the slideshow below.

• Let Go Of The Idea That Marriage Is Temporary

  From <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lydia-netzer/marriage-secrets_b_1459770.html">"15 Ways To Stay Married For 15 Years"</a> by Lydia Netzer

• It's OK If Your Partner Has Something That Gets Under Your Skin

  From <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kim-siegal/want-marriage-advise-ask-_b_2518569.html">"Want Marriage Advice? Ask My Husband"</a> by Kim Siegal

• Let Go Of Your Expectations

  From <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheryl-paul/marriage-is-a-workinprogr_b_2475331.html">"Marriage Is A Work In Progress"</a> by Sheryl Paul

• Unplug And Reconnect

  From <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/danielle-tate/unplug-to-reconnect_b_2696893.html?utm_hp_ref=weddings&ir=Weddings">"Unplug To Reconnect"</a> by Danielle Tate

• Always Be Open To Having Sex

  From <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/18/marriage-advice_n_1435547.html">"Experts Give Their Most Unexpected Recommendations"</a> by Laura Berman

• Establish A Monthly "Desire Debriefing"

  From "<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/deanna-brann-phd/prioritizing-passion-how-_b_2079957.html" target="_hplink">Prioritizing Passion: How To Stay Stoked</a>" by Deanna Brann

• Focus On What Makes You Less Stressed

  From <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tammy-nelson-phd/getting-the-love-you-want_b_1588285.html">"Getting The Love You Want"</a> by Tammy Nelson

• Just Let It Go

  From <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/hunny-amp/hunny-reiken-80-talks-with_b_2171948.html">"Hunny Reiken, 80, Talks With Her Husband, Elliot Reiken, 86,"</a> by Hunny Reiken

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